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I'm kind of a lousy friend, all-told.
14 years ago
Been thinking about this a lot lately, but it kind of came to a head recently. I'm kind of a shitty friend, simply because I have a tendency to lose contact with people. I literally can't count the number of friends I've FORGOTTEN ABOUT COMPLETELY, haven't talked to in months/years, haven't even thought about ... It's like, I know I KNEW a lot of people at some point, but it's a hole in my brain. And I'll go through these periods where I'll frequently talk with a few people for an extended period of time, like every night we're having these great conversations, but it's really only because THEY'RE the ones who initiated the conversation, and if they ever stop they'll just kind of fade out of my mind.
But I mean, I'm only one person, right? I can't be friends with everyone. But it hurts to think about all the people I've lost contact with. And it's likely going to happen again, and again ...
All I ever talk about in these journals is weird personal problems, or videogames. I'm not depressed, at least not at the moment. I'm just tired and felt like saying what was on my mind. I guess.
But I mean, I'm only one person, right? I can't be friends with everyone. But it hurts to think about all the people I've lost contact with. And it's likely going to happen again, and again ...
All I ever talk about in these journals is weird personal problems, or videogames. I'm not depressed, at least not at the moment. I'm just tired and felt like saying what was on my mind. I guess.
Honestly, don't let it get you down; if someone's willing to flip out over something so trivial, then they're obviously not the type of person you want to associate yourself with anyways.
No but I know what you mean, I can't initiate conversation with anyone at all and I hate maintaining a conversation, too, so I can identify with that
And not to say, about the various awkward situations i feel pushed into soemtimes too...
I remember this one time, I had a friend over, but I was also working on a surprise, so I made him hide in the closet...and...wait...friends like food, don't they? Uh oh.
if you won't want that, then take assertion, start becoming the conversation starter, it's not easy mind but all you have to say are the basics like "what's up" or something and just go from there. Don't let it be taken to heart, there's 6.8 Billion people in this world, someones gotta be your friend.
And in my case, since I am not a heavy gamer anymore and don't draw, I'm usually lost on what to chat with ya about when I do see you online, heh.
how can you be a lousy friend if they're not contacting you, either?
that said we haven't spoken in forever :C >_>
I dunno!
but just remember, as much as you've forgotten about them, they haven't bothered to contact you.
And it's the internet, that happens, people die without others knowing for awhile, just make friends while you can, and when you drift apart...such is the nature of faceless connections
a lot of the the comments obve are right, eople come and go in life no matter what, it's really not worth getting tired of mind over.
As far as the friend thing goes, I've come to understand that who your friends are and how close they are is pretty fluid and dynamic over the course of your life. You'll meet some new people, old friends will drift out of contact, you might find a friend you haven't talked to in years and get closer than ever.
In my opinion, what would make a bad friend would be someone who has friendships purely for networking or some sort of gain without the being a friend part.