Resolving hard feelings is a very mature thing to do. I wish you luck.

Thanks, I hope it works out

It sounds like you did the right thing. You don't need to be bosom buddies with someone after you've gone through an ordeal with them, but just clearing the air and not having it hanging over the two of you is almost always the best approach - as long as the other person is not crazy. :P

Good luck! Even if it doesn't have a positive outcome, at least you tried, and you can be at ease knowing you extended an olive branch.

What I said to someone else -->We decided to meet for drinks at Applebees, so I hope it goes well. I'm sure it will, but I'm still more nervous than I was on my first date - I mean, SHIT.

What the first Guy said. But either way, you'll find out whether its worth trying to clear the air with them or not based on their response.

We decided to meet for drinks at Applebees, so I hope it goes well. I'm sure it will, but I'm still more nervous than I was on my first date - I mean, SHIT.

LOL!

haha, well best of luck! hopefully you guys hit-it-off and youll have a pal again!

We had a buffer and everything and we didn't even need it. It was a little awkward at first but I think we'll be fine. I'm taking her to pick up her bike tomorrow, so yay hopefully it stays okay.

OH SHIT!

Im really glad to hear that

Ive had fallout with friends before, and Ill never forget the day we made up with eachother. <:]
Ironically making-up began with him running up to me with a hollowed out grenade and tacking me with the grenade between us

But im happy for you! Hope everything goes well. Just remember that character flaws rarely vanish, so be mindful.

Eeep, that sounds awkward! Good luck. :c I have an "ex-friend" that I still have on Skype and all that and whenever I try to talk to him he gets mad at me for making small talk. u_u It'd be nice to clear it up.

So far everything seems like it went really well C:> I'm taking her to pick up her bike tomorrow so she doesn't have to walk for an hour in the sun.

Well, that's great! :D

*after reading other responding comments along with the journal* I hope your meeting goes well for you both. This actually happened to me. My roommate and I had a falling out, and she just up and left. Which sucked because I depended on her for transportation to not just to school but for food as well. She felt bad and kept trying to get a hold of me, but I refused to talk to her after how bad she had hurt me. We were actually really good friends as well before the falling out. But a year later, I started feeling guilty as well. It didn't seem like what had happened was that big a deal anymore, so I decided it was time to heal old wounds. It worked out for the best, and we're on speaking terms again (though she's in another school much farther away so we don't really see each other anymore). But it's good we made amends. It takes a load off your mind. And even if things don't work out, you should have peace of mind knowing that at least YOU wanted to make things better. Again, hope everything works out though, so good luck. 8)

aww that kinda sucks, sort of sounds like what happened between us. Sticky situations with roommates are always awful.

We went out with another friend and so far things seem okay. She shared her candy and I bought her a drink, so it was a win-win. It was only a little awkward, so I think things'll be okay C:>

True that.

But hey, that's great! 8D
Hope things continue to go smoothly, and any nervousness or guilty feelings (that's how I felt anyway) you may have had are no longer present.

Well, at least you won't be 90 years old thinking, "well shit, maybe I should've tried to reconcile with Jenny. Her brother was hot." Live with no regrets!

That's actually exactly what started me on this - I heard from her roommate that she was feeling bummed out and I was like 'SHIT well she's a person too, and no one lives forever' - that's kind of a dark train of thought, but I figured what the hell, the worst thing that happens is she ignores me. I'm lucky that we talked and hung out and it went really well. Hopefully it stays that way, because we were both fighting about some seriously stupid shit.

I had a roommate/friend a while back, and after getting into a huge fight, I decided to move out because we couldn't co-habitate anymore. I felt this was the best course of action, because she acted like she was my mother, demanding I do this and that, while she couldn't even reciprocate. I hate being bossed around, especially by a hypocrite, so I figured the best way to save our friendship was to just not live in the same household. She thought I should stay and "make things work", and that me leaving was running away, being a child, and that it wouldn't fix anything. Self fulfilling prophecy on her part. She cut all ties of communication, told lies about me to what few friends she had left... and then stalked me online for the next two years for some reason. She even called the cops on me for some vague livejournal post a friend of mine had made to me that she felt "threatened" about.

That was seven years ago. Recently another friend of mine (and another ex friend of hers) started trying to talk to her again, and she was civil but so ridiculously mistaken as to what had been the root of our fight that I wrote her a letter trying to explain in the simplest and nicest way possible, and that after seven years we should both be mature enough to talk about it like adults, come to an understanding, and get rid of the bad feelings. I know we'd never be friends again, I just wanted to clear the air. I guess after seven years she's still as stubborn and "perfect" as ever though, because she never replied.

I hope your situation turns out better than mine did :V

Wow that sounds remarkably like what happened to me. That's kind of crazy. The onl reason I felt pretty okay with fixing things is because I'm not living with her anymore and I can choose when and where I want to see her if at all, and I'm not trapped in a situation. So far things seem okay, and I think that so long as we both live in separate territory, there isn't a reason for us to fight. So I hope things stay okay after tonight, cause she seems like she's grown up some since then.

Yeah that's what I thought too, with the territory thing. I even live in a different country now.

Apparently your acquaintance is more mature than mine :P At least she agreed to talk to you and even meet up somewhere.

I had a slightly similar experience.

years ago I quit a job to open up a shop for comics, books, toys, games and whatnot with three friends. at first it went well, but we had no income left, and after 4 months I had to go and get me a job to pay my bills. they snagged the shop keys from me, and later made a huge mistake that cost them the income of several days... a bit later they closed doors, without bothering to tell me. I heard about it through someone else, at a con, even! and after me sinking all my funds into it I was pretty miffed to be pushed aside like that, and it took me almost a year to simmer down enough to make contact again.

one vanished later, the other escaped, but I'm again on good terms with the third. talking it over after a while helps a lot.

good luck!

You'll never know unless you ask. At least you can find the answer instead of blindly worrying.

I recently did a similar clearing of air with an.. ex-friend (it does sound weird, doesn't it?).. and I'm not sure if it accomplished much but having gotten it out of the way it does feel a bit better.. :/

I hope your situation, if nothing else, smooths over a bit so you can pass them on the street without feeling too weird.

Luckily it all worked out and we can talk and hang out and it's fine C:> So I feel better about the whole thing. Thanks~

I'm very glad to hear this <3

This makes you the bigger person, which means if the reaction isn't positive, they're pretty much scum and you don't have to feel bad anymore.

It actually worked out C:> I'm really glad I reached out, cause now she's one of my best friends again.

Awesome.