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16 years ago
My father, actually.
I've been saving up for a 360 Elite. $400. I'm at 240 right now, and my next paycheck should be 160ish, guesstimating with the tax cuts.
I want to buy it, imediately, of course, but my parents don't want me to, right away, at least.
Basically, they want me to start saving up for college and whatnot. They want me to set up a direct deposit at my place of work, In other words, they're telling me what to do with my paycheck.
My paycheck. Not their paycheck, MY paycheck.
MINE.
And there in lies my problem. My parents - my dad - wants me to take half of the money I've saved, and put it into a college savings plan already in the works, and they'll help me pay for the other half.
But that's the thing. I want to pay for ALL of it myself. I want this to be earned on MY EFFORT, not their wallets. And I can only help but suspect that buying this Xbox with my money will put it under my control, something they CAN'T control. If it's payed half-n-half, they can say who gets to play it and stuff.
And frankly, I'm tired of them trying to control every.
Single.
Fucking.
Thing, in my life.
They need to just butt out. College is important, yes, but my paycheck is mine. I earned it, I say what happens to the money. Who the fuck do they think they are trying to come into my pay range and swipe this and that and call the shots?
That's just fucking rude, and obnoxious. I'm sick of them with their finger in every aspect of my life.
I'm sixteen mother fucking years old, and they STILL have to know the parents of every single friend of mine, JUST so I can go chill with them. They make it such a huge nightmare that I just say "fuck it" and don't invite anyone over. They are RUINING MY SOCIAL LIFE.
I can't even get a fucking ride from work and be ten minutes late coming home before I get yelled at - "YOU NEED TO COME HOME RIGHT NOW"
My dad said this to me while I was in front of an ATM trying to get gas money for my ride's empty tank.
Now. Some of you may be reading this and thinking that I'm complaining for nothing, and that college should take priority over everything.
What my parents don't seem to grasp is that I intend to save AFTER I purchase this Xbox. They say I don't understand something, and I tell them they got it all wrong and that they don't understand something - but they're so high up on their pedestal that they take such tremendous offense to what I say.
Just twenty minutes ago, my dad was trying to tell me that he wants to pay for the half the Elite, but he keeps going about and saying it in a fancy way because he likes to sound technical and clever.
I can't even remember what he said, but I repeatedly told him "Dad, I don't understand what you want from me." Not in the angsty emo D:< wrist-slitting fashion, just the polite way of saying "What the fuck are you talking about?"
"I don't understand, Dad, what do you want from me? Do you want to pay for half the Xbox, is that what you're saying?"
"Yes."
"Then why didn't you just say that instead of trying to sound all fancy?"
He leaves my room and slams my door.
What the fuck, man. I just said you don't have to be all fancy, and he threw a tantrum. But I'm just in a mix of D: and :/ right now.
I just want them to understand...I'm not a kid anymore. I can take care of my stuff, y'know?
Ugh. Sorry guys. I just...needed to get this off my chest. It's been too long, and I told myself "Now Apollo, no more emodrama-spewing bullshit all over FA, okay?", but this...just...
Fuck.
I've been saving up for a 360 Elite. $400. I'm at 240 right now, and my next paycheck should be 160ish, guesstimating with the tax cuts.
I want to buy it, imediately, of course, but my parents don't want me to, right away, at least.
Basically, they want me to start saving up for college and whatnot. They want me to set up a direct deposit at my place of work, In other words, they're telling me what to do with my paycheck.
My paycheck. Not their paycheck, MY paycheck.
MINE.
And there in lies my problem. My parents - my dad - wants me to take half of the money I've saved, and put it into a college savings plan already in the works, and they'll help me pay for the other half.
But that's the thing. I want to pay for ALL of it myself. I want this to be earned on MY EFFORT, not their wallets. And I can only help but suspect that buying this Xbox with my money will put it under my control, something they CAN'T control. If it's payed half-n-half, they can say who gets to play it and stuff.
And frankly, I'm tired of them trying to control every.
Single.
Fucking.
Thing, in my life.
They need to just butt out. College is important, yes, but my paycheck is mine. I earned it, I say what happens to the money. Who the fuck do they think they are trying to come into my pay range and swipe this and that and call the shots?
That's just fucking rude, and obnoxious. I'm sick of them with their finger in every aspect of my life.
I'm sixteen mother fucking years old, and they STILL have to know the parents of every single friend of mine, JUST so I can go chill with them. They make it such a huge nightmare that I just say "fuck it" and don't invite anyone over. They are RUINING MY SOCIAL LIFE.
I can't even get a fucking ride from work and be ten minutes late coming home before I get yelled at - "YOU NEED TO COME HOME RIGHT NOW"
My dad said this to me while I was in front of an ATM trying to get gas money for my ride's empty tank.
Now. Some of you may be reading this and thinking that I'm complaining for nothing, and that college should take priority over everything.
What my parents don't seem to grasp is that I intend to save AFTER I purchase this Xbox. They say I don't understand something, and I tell them they got it all wrong and that they don't understand something - but they're so high up on their pedestal that they take such tremendous offense to what I say.
Just twenty minutes ago, my dad was trying to tell me that he wants to pay for the half the Elite, but he keeps going about and saying it in a fancy way because he likes to sound technical and clever.
I can't even remember what he said, but I repeatedly told him "Dad, I don't understand what you want from me." Not in the angsty emo D:< wrist-slitting fashion, just the polite way of saying "What the fuck are you talking about?"
"I don't understand, Dad, what do you want from me? Do you want to pay for half the Xbox, is that what you're saying?"
"Yes."
"Then why didn't you just say that instead of trying to sound all fancy?"
He leaves my room and slams my door.
What the fuck, man. I just said you don't have to be all fancy, and he threw a tantrum. But I'm just in a mix of D: and :/ right now.
I just want them to understand...I'm not a kid anymore. I can take care of my stuff, y'know?
Ugh. Sorry guys. I just...needed to get this off my chest. It's been too long, and I told myself "Now Apollo, no more emodrama-spewing bullshit all over FA, okay?", but this...just...
Fuck.
The tension like this will go away once you move out of the house. :D
Now! I'm not saying to do that, as you're still rather young for that and probably not ready, but just... tolerate it as best you can. Just tell them you need some space and voice yourself.
And hey, we don't mind your rants and such. It gives me something to do.
I've had issues with my parents before, but they're generally more subtle when they try to take control... It's sort of devious actually.
Kinda lame of your dad though... Just keep on keepin' on. They'll eventually realize that you're maturing and need your space.
I hate to sound like THAT GUY, but it's completely natural for you to be feeling like this. I felt like this before. My mom likes to be in control of everything and she tends to think that one bad grade for me in the end of the world. I get glares when my report card isn't all A's; even an A- gets her upset!! I've just learned to not care what she thinks about pretty much anything.
Always around to talk~
[I really hate sounding cliche and tacky. Sorry!]
Just wait till RE5 or whatever!
Gosh, sounds tough, Apollo.
Try to explain to them that this is your treat to yourself after getting a job perhaps? Tell them a plan. Or whatever. Its your hard-earned money, so maybe, I dunno, waste it away on crap til February or something, and then start saving hardcore.
One thing with saving, if you don't splurge a little bit at a time, eventually you're just gonna say 'aww fuck it' and spend it all at once. Believe me, I've been there. =)
Also Direct Deposit into a savings thing is not such a great idea =S Its just as easy to put it in yourself, and in case of emergencies or a short paycheck, it'll be there for you.
Anyway, sorry to rant and all that, just hope everything works out all okay for you.
And jesus, you're a 16year old without a 360. Your parents should be ashaaaaamed. =P
It seems to me that this would be a good chance for them to teach you the responsibility of buying your own vidya games, no ? :]